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We are TACKLING some of the LIFE QUESTIONS our students might have as they grow on their journey with Jesus.

Here is a LIFE QUESTIONS guide as we highlight Two Questions this week on our OSM LIVE video.

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We are praying for you and your family. Please contact me by email at Brandon.Best@oakwoodnb.com for prayers, needs, or just to touch base.

Assistant Principal’s Plea for Parents to Monitor Cellphone Use

Posted on March 3, 2020 by Ken McCoy

“When I have to search a student’s cell phone, I’m sick to my stomach at what I find. It gets worse every year.”

“Parents. I am an assistant principal in a middle school (grades 6-8). My number one job is to create and sustain a school environment where both students and teachers feel safe (physically, emotionally, and mentally) to teach, learn, innovate, and socialize. I take my job very seriously, as do my colleagues. We work very hard to grow in our capacity to do this work on a daily basis.

I can’t begin to describe how much time I spend every day dealing with issues that stem from unsupervised cell phone usage by our students. In the situations where I have to search a student’s cell phone, I often get sick to my stomach at what I find (highly inappropriate photos, videos, messages, social media usage, etc.). The things our students are willing to try and be a part of at such a young age gets worse and worse every year.

When I call parents to inform them of what is going on, I always ask them how often they search their kids’ phones. The shock gets even worse when 90% of them say hardly ever or never. And then they get upset at me, accuse me of lying to them about their kids’ roles in certain situations, or expect me to somehow fix the situation.

Parents. It is your number one job as a parent to get in your kids’ way at all times. Kids do not deserve privacy without accountability. You own their devices, not them. You should be having the hard conversations with them about life, relationships, their bodies, their futures, etc. It is your responsibility to provide social and emotional support, help build coping skills, and monitor their activities, especially online. Please stop actively working against the schools and start working with us. We are not the enemy. We are trying to fulfill the role of both parent and educator in many situations, and that is a very delicate and difficult line to walk.

Youth leaders are engaged in a silent war with very real forces of darkness. Arm yourself when you join Youth Leaders Only.

Here are four tips for ‘getting in your child’s way.’ You can modify any of these based on your relationship with your children.

  1. Eat dinner as a family every night possible and actually talk. No devices allowed. Current research suggests parents only spend about 8 minutes a day in conversation with their kids. That’s unacceptable.
  2. Check their devices RANDOMLY AND OFTEN. You need to learn how to navigate their world. Inform yourself on how to use certain apps. Keep up with what apps are the most downloaded in the App Store. Make your kid show you their content and conversations and explain to you what is going on. Then give them advice. MAKE CONTENT WITH THEM and be part of their online presence.
  3. Create opportunities for them to have new experiences. Take them to do new things, see new things, and learn new things. This not only strengthens their brain development, emotional development, and builds resiliency in kids, but it also strengthens your relationship with them.
  4. And finally, do not let them take their phones into their rooms, shut their doors, and disappear for hours. Nothing good ever happens on the internet behind closed doors. The online world is by far the most dangerous place our students go to every day. We can’t assume they will intuitively know how to navigate the dangers of the online world on their own.

Please, help us with this.”

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Messy Bible Club Spring Schedule

Who: all girls from 6th grade to 12th grade to attend and you are welcome to bring a friend! 

Contact: Amy Bowles

When: Sundays 3-5pm 

Spring schedule: NO MEETINGS until April 4

Apr 5th – NO Bible Study – out of town for Granddaughter’s first bday party

Apr 12th – NO Bible Study (Easter)

Apr 19th

Apr 26th

May 3rd

May 10th – NO Bible Study – Mother’s Day

May 17th – Last Messy Bible Study for Spring