Measure Up Parent Cue


Part of avoiding the comparison trap is celebrating the abilities and things that others have. One day this week, choose with your student someone that each of you will make a point of celebrating by paying that person a compliment, writing them a thank you note, or posting about their awesomeness on social media.


Sometimes the feeling of not measuring up can be so isolating. This week, take a few moments to tell your student about someone who you didn’t feel like you measured up to when you were in middle school—maybe it was a sibling, a classmate, or even a friend. Share a way that, looking back on it, you can see unique strengths and abilities in each of you.


Comparison doesn’t always have to be a bad thing. At one meal this week, ask these Would You Rather questions (or make up some of your own!): Would you rather . . . Live in a place that’s always hot or always cold? Be able to run really fast or jump very high? Wear clown shoes or a clown wig every day for the rest of your life? Be able to play any musical instrument or be fluent in all languages?


Your student has unique gifts, talents, and abilities, and they need you to tell them about the ways you see them excelling. One evening this week, tell your student something about them you’re proud of. Try to attach your statement to something that’s true of them every day, like “I’m proud of you for being kind,” or “I’m proud of how you make a point of speaking up for others.”

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All Access Believe Weekend Launch Party

Wednesday October 25 all Middle School and High School students will participate in the night.

LOCATION: Oakwood Student Pavilion

Schedule for the Night:

5:30pm  – IN PERSON SIGN UP BEGINS!!!! +Hangout and Food for students and parents
6:30pm  – Believe Launch Party Begins inside Pavilion
                – Worship
               – Extreme Bingo
               – Believe Weekend Challenge
7:30pm – Student are dismissed


Hey Parents!

Don’t miss the ALL NEW Believe Weekend Launch Party!!!

5:30 opens the LOW LOW RATE OF $50 for first 50 sign ups and $60 for the night before costs go up at 9:01pm!

Believe Weekend is January 26,27,28.

We will launch our theme, give T-Shirts to the first 100 that sign up, and have some fun, interactive games for the students.

+ We will create a space and time for students to invite their friends to sign up for the LOW LOW price as welll!!! This could be a great way to INVITE an UNCHURCHED FRIEND!!!!

Adolescence: A Season of Pressure

Doug FieldsAuthor of Intentional Parenting

On the outside, most young people seem happy-go-lucky, but inside each adolescent is a complex network of potentially explosive pressures. Adolescents with a strong parental and social support system are the least likely to experience the painful effects of the pressures they face. When parents become aware of the typical sources of pressure that kids face, they are better able to provide their kids encouragement and support. Here are five common pressures adolescents face:

1. The Pressure to be Perfect.
Teens repeatedly talk about their parents wanting them to be perfect, particularly in in the areas of behavior and school. No kid is perfect and when they fall short of their parents’ expectations, they feel more pressure.

2. The Pressure to Succeed.


Oakwood Middle School 6th Grade Retreat October 6-7

6th Grade Retreat Camp Eagle Wood Logo

Camp Eagle is nestled in a beautiful and rugged environment that is perfect for the casual camper, outdoor adventurer, or extreme sport enthusiast. While beauty and adventure draw many to the camp, the experiences and relationships make the greatest impact. Activities are more than just fun, each one is geared to inspire and transform lives towards a deeper relationship with Christ.

Click here for 6th Grade Retreat Registration 2017

What to bring?

  • Bring all your own linens and bedding for a twin bed.
    • The facility will not have towels, washcloths, pillows or bedding.
  • You also need to bring your own toiletries such as toothbrush, shampoo and soap.
  • Don’t forget your Bibles, notepad and pen.
  • Tennis Shoes are suggested for our fun activities

Friday, October 6

4:30 Meet at Oakwood Student Pavilion

Registration and Pizza

5:30 Load Buses

8:30 Arrive at Camp Eagle

9PM Welcome Session

10PM Capture the Flag

11PM Leader Know God Story Time


Saturday, October 7

8AM Breakfast


10AM Think Twice SG Breakouts

10:20 Break

10:30 Collapsed Mine and Millhouse

11:30 Think Twice SG Breakouts

12PM Lunch

1PM Archery Tag, Free Time

3PM Coffee Shop Open

4:30 SESSION 2

5:30 Think Twice SG Breakouts/ Pack and Clean up

6PM Dinner – Bags Ready to Load

6:30PM SESSION 3 and Load Buses


Parent Cue Road Signs Series

Have you thought about the path your family is taking?  What direction would you like to REALLY GO, but don’t seem to know how?  Proverbs helps us take our intentions and give direction to the destination by first “pondering the path.”

Proverbs Chapter 4

25 Let your eyes look directly forward, and your gaze be straight before you.
26 Ponder the path of your feet; then all your ways will be sure.
27 Do not swerve to the right or to the left; turn your foot away from evil.


What kind of family do you want to be? What shared experiences do you want to have? What kind of legacy do you want to leave? This month, think about one goal, one destination, you want to reach as a family. Maybe you want to become more environmentally conscious. Maybe you want to serve others. Maybe you want to feel closer to each other. When you decide on your destination, then you can make a road map for getting there. Here are just a few questions to help you start planning your journey.


  1. What is your biggest obstacle in taking the first step? Everyone has some reason why you can’t do something. Find out what that big fear or reason is, and determine what is the best way to push through that roadblock.


  1. Is there something you need to stop doing in order to free up time to get to your chosen destination? For example, if you want to grow closer as a family, what time do you need to carve out of your schedule to spend time together on a consistent basis?


  1. Are there tools or materials you need in order to equip you for the path? For example, if you want to become more environmentally conscious, do you need to clean up the garage to setup a recycling center? Do you need to find a drop-off center for recyclable items near your home? Do you need to make a trip to your local home improvement store to make your home more “green”?


  1. What organizations can you contact or information can you research to help you prepare? As a family, if your goal is to start eating healthier, can you all take a cooking class to learn how to prepare more nutritious meals? Is there information you can find online about the nutritional information of foods at your favorite restaurants?


  1. What kind of mile markers and guardrails can you setup to make sure you stay on course for the long run? There will be times when things get too hard or when the family gets off track, so beforehand, develop a plan to keep everyone accountable and help get things back on course.

River Baptism and Middle School

Does your Middle Schooler want to get baptized in the River September 24???


One of my favorite times of the year is our Baptism Sunday at Lazy L&L IN THE RIVER!  It is always a joy to celebrate the next step of obedience for believer’s baptism with your Middle Schooler!

River Baptism will be at the Oakwood Church Picnic on Sunday, September 24th immediately following lunch.

Sign up is at the picnic.  Bring a towel and something appropriate to wear in the river.  They’ll make an announcement when it’s time to head down to the river.

Here is a basics of baptism parent discussion guide for you!

How to get baptized at Lazy L&L

  1. Decide to get baptized
  2. Tell the volunteers at the picnic
  3. Meet the Pastors down by the river after lunch
  4. If you would like the Middle School Pastor to baptize you… Pick Pastor Brandon

Download the MS Baptism Parent Guide Here

Middle School Basics of Baptism – Parent Discussion Guide

  • What is Baptism? BAPTISM IS:  An Outward sign of an inward change 

According to Acts 2:38-41, when do people get baptized?

Peter & the beginning – Acts 2:38-41  38Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. 39The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.”

40With many other words he warned them; and he pleaded with them, “Save yourselves from this corrupt generation.” 41Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.

  • What does repent mean?   Repentance is: A Change of Mind that results in a change of heart.

Baptism happens after Repentance – “Repent and be baptized”

Philip & the Eunuch – Acts 8:34-39  34The eunuch asked Philip, “Tell me, please, who is the prophet talking about, himself or someone else?” 35Then Philip began with that very passage of Scripture and told him the good news about Jesus.

36As they traveled along the road, they came to some water and the eunuch said, “Look, here is water. Why shouldn’t I be baptized?”[f] 38And he gave orders to stop the chariot. Then both Philip and the eunuch went down into the water and Philip baptized him. 39When they came up out of the water, the Spirit of the Lord suddenly took Philip away, and the eunuch did not see him again, but went on his way rejoicing.

  • What is the “good news?” The “Good News about Jesus” is the truth that Jesus is the Son of the Living God.  He died to pay the penalty of the sins of the world, and ALL who call on the Name of the Lord shall be saved through Jesus Christ.
  • When did the Eunuch ask to be baptized? After responding to the Good News About Jesus.

What would JESUS do??? – The Baptism of Jesus Matt 3:13-17   13Then Jesus came from Galilee to the Jordan to be baptized by John. 14But John tried to deter him, saying, “I need to be baptized by you, and do you come to me?”  15Jesus replied, “Let it be so now; it is proper for us to do this to fulfill all righteousness.” Then John consented.  16As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and lighting on him. 17And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

  • What about You?
  • Have you repented and turned from your sin?
  • Have you heard the Good News or Gospel of Jesus and responded by giving your life to Him?
  • Do you want to walk as Jesus did in obedience?
  • When you are baptized, you are displaying one more story of the powerful change of Jesus Christ in our lives!

Middle School Wednesday Nights – 5:30pm to 7:30pm


Jesus Redeems Series – Rescue Emphasis

  • Your students will learn that any hope we have of being reconciled to Creator God comes through Jesus, our Rescuer and Redeemer.
  • Main Topics: Redemption, rescue, gospel, hope, mission, faith, mercy
  • Connected Roots: Rescue, Apologetics, Outreach

Regular Schedule in Student Pavilion

5:30pm – Papa John’s Pizza Served, Crowd Games & Random Door Prize Giveaways

6:00pm – Fusion Wednesdays Begin with Worship

6:30pm – Talk Time

7:00pm – Small Groups in the Admin Rooms above the offices.

7:30pm – Dismiss


Sept 6 – Rescue Mission  *First Regular Middle School Wed – Memory Verse: John 4:35

Sept 13 – Headliner – Nicodemas Memory Verse: John 3:16-17

Sept 20 – Middle School Madness Game Night – Crazy Games/ Fun Games/ Competition for memory verses

Sept 27 – Allen Moorman, Guest Speaker