Keep It Weird Parent Cue

THINK ABOUT THIS
By Reggie Joiner
Who I am is determined by a combination of things like:
My past experiences
My significant relationships
My personal interests
My spiritual beliefs
My personality traits
My physical characteristics
My natural talents

Each one of these things plays a role in shaping your child’s identity. Sure, there may be a host of people who have things in common with your child in each of these areas, but no one has the same combinations as your individual son or daughter. So, as parents, these issues become a way for us to think about the uniqueness of each of our children, and to help them begin a healthy journey toward understanding who they are. Here are a few suggestions to create an atmosphere in your home that celebrates the value of uniqueness.

Reinforce the Idea of Uniqueness Verbally
How often do you actually say something that encourages a sense of uniqueness in your children? It may seem strange but when my kids were younger, I would say things like, “Sarah, I just want you to know that you are my favorite second-born daughter.” She would reply with a sigh, “Dad, I’m your only second-born daughter!” I would smile and say, “Exactly.” There are a number of ways you can be intentional about saying things to your kids that add to their sense of uniqueness. Be specific. For example instead of saying, “You are a good writer,” you might say something like, “I can tell by your writing that you think in a very detailed way.”

Capture Significant Memories
Your past really does influence your understanding of who you are. Memory is a powerful force. There are significant moments that should be highlighted through photography, symbols, journals, etc. An author friend of mine recently talked about how he decided to collect things to decorate his home that actually reminded him of specific defining moments in his past. It makes sense when you remember that your past experiences are part of what makes your story unique.

Share Family Stories to give a Sense of their Unique Heritage
When my kids were younger, I heard a psychologist talk about how critical it was for children to hear stories about their parents and grandparents. He explained how it helped them contextualize their lives, and find a sense of connection and identity from the bigger story of their family. There are a number of ways to collect family stories. One way is to start a tradition on family holidays to have relatives tell stories about you and your parents from their perspective. It gives your children a unique view of you and themselves they would not otherwise have.

Expose them to Different Cultures and People Groups
If you live in the country, visit the city. If you live in the city, visit the country. Develop relationships with neighbors or associates who come from different ethnic backgrounds. Eat in a restaurant where the owners are from another culture and speak a different language. Ask them creative questions to find out something interesting about their culture. Watch documentaries together that broaden their understanding of how other people live. Teach them to respect the diversity around them.

Experiment with a Variety of Activities
Again, one of the most important things you can do as a parent is to continue to help your kids discover their strengths and passion. It’s okay for your kids to try out a number of things before they find the things they love to do and what that are naturally good at doing. When they are young, let them experience different kinds of camps, play different sports, and experiment with art and music to discover their passions. I know parents who have let their older kids spend the day with different friends at work so they can get a better understanding of a variety of occupations. Remember, you are helping them narrow their focus to the few things that they will ultimately invest their life.

What other ideas do you have to teach kids about uniqueness?

Get connected to a wider community of parents at TheParentCue.org.

TRY THIS
There isn’t a more difficult time in life to navigate differences and embrace uniqueness than in middle school. During this time, it can sometimes be hard to see that the things that make us unique are hints at what we can excel at. Especially if we ‘re constantly being teased or pressured to conform to what the popular group deems as “normal.”

One thing we can all do to help our teenagers embrace their uniqueness is to model the way. We can show them what it looks like to embrace the unique characteristics about themselves.

Think about your unique characteristics. How have you recognized, used, talked about, and celebrated them? How difficult was it for you in middle school to embrace these unique qualities? Were you bullied, teased, or ashamed of them? What changed that?

This week, share the answers to these questions with your teenager.
Maybe in the car you say . . .
•Hey, did I ever tell you what middle school was like for me?
•Hey, I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but I have a bad habit of __________ about myself. So I’ve decided instead of ____________, I am going to change the way I talk about it. I need your help!
•Hey, remind me when we get home to show you a [picture, figurine, trophy, etc.] that I received when I as in middle school.

One of the best gifts you can give your teenager is to normalize their feelings around their unique qualities. This conversation can be the first step towards creating an atmosphere in your home that celebrates the value of uniqueness.

Middle School Kick-Off @ Schlitterbahn 4pm to 6pm

Come to Blastenhoff Entrance – Meet up with Brandon and the Middle School Team 4pm

We will break off in groups with Middle School Leaders.

Pick up at 6pm at Blastenhoff Entrance.

Hey Oakwood Families,

If you don’t have a Season Pass and want to join us a the park, check out the Partner Discount Info Below:

For year-round fun at Schlitterbahn Waterparks and Resorts, use the link below to access our Partner Discounts.  Discounts are available for admission, season passes, accommodations and more.  Although Partner Discounts are not currently available for Cabanas, Early-Access and Blast Passes through our Partner Program, they are available on the site for your convenience.

To view the park-specific offers, visit Partner Link listed below and follow the steps listed below.

  • Choose your Park.
  • Select the Item Type you wish to purchase from the Park Landing Page.
  • Enter your Quantities and Follow the Prompts.
  • Add your eTicket Code and Apply Promotion to receive your Partner Discount.
  • Visually Confirm that your Rates have changed.
  • Remember, if your eTicket Code is not entered before check out, you will be charged full price.

Partner Link:           www.schlitterbahn.com/partnerdiscounts

2017 Code:              201700234

Partner Discounts are available online only and require an advance purchase.

Fuze Night Tonight Update!

6 Middle School Students Gave their lives to Jesus at our Fuze Night!

What is Middle School Fuze Night? Fuze Night is a large group gathering for Middle School Students in the Student Pavilion on Wednesday Night.  6:00pm begins with pizza and hang time then we move to high energy music, a relevant speaker, and response time. 8pm is dismissal time. Middle School students are challenged to shine a light for Jesus in their area of influence.

6pm Pizza and Pavilion Hangout/Outside Games

6:30 Travis Kiers Band

7:15 Gospel Messsage with Pastor Brandon

7:45 Response Time

8pm Dismiss

Middle School Parents – Student Pavilion is Up and Running!

Sunday MorningsStudent Pavilion 9:15am to 10:30am.

Middle School Students grab a Shipley Doughnut or two, worship together, and listen to a talk time geared for them. We end the hour in Fusion Small Group break out rooms by grade and gender.

Wednesday Nights – Student Pavilion 6:30pm to 8:00pm.

Set up an environment geared towards Grades 6-8, 6:30pm to 8pm.  Students begin in the Student Pavilion and move to breakout rooms to end the evening.


What is Fusion? Fusion offers a loving and accepting environment geared for Middle School Students Grades 6-8.  We have events, weekly meetings, and exist to Intentionally Engage Middle School Students by leading them to the heart of the Father.

When and Where does Fusion Meet? ? 6th-8th grades begin in the NEW STUDENT PAVILION on Sunday mornings and Wednesday nights.

What happens on Fusion Sundays?  Beginning at  9:15am, students have a Shipley doughnut or five, worship time with a band, talk time, and then break out in rooms by grade and gender for small group time.  10:30am is dismissal time from break out rooms.

What happens on Fusion Wednesdays? 6:30 Bible Study Begins in the NEW STUDENT PAVILION!!!!! –  We have hang out time before things get started, begin with Worship, move to Talk Time, then Students move to break out rooms for real life discussion. 8pm is dismissal time.

What can my Middle Schooler do for dinner? We suggest sending your student to the Oakwood Wednesday Night Dinner for a nice hot meal.  Students are welcome to hang out with us in the New Student Pavilion between 5:30 and 6:30pm.

Can my Middle Schooler play on the playground?  Parents, please let your Middle Schooler know that the playground is for CHILDREN and that they will be asked to leave the playground.

What is Middle School Fuze Night? Fuze Night is a large group gathering for Middle School Students in the Student Pavilion on Wednesday Night.  6:00pm begins with pizza and hang time then we move to high energy music, a relevant speaker, and response time. 8pm is dismissal time. Middle School students are challenged to shine a light for Jesus in their area of influence.

What is All Access? All Access is a foyer event geared for students to invest and invite a friend. The Oakwood Student Ministry, grades 6-12, meet in the Main Worship Center for a night of high energy worship and a relevant message, challenging students to follow Christ. 6:00pm begins with food and hang time, then high energy music, a relevant speaker, and response time. 8pm is dismissal time. Our Believe Weekend Kick-Off night is an All Access Night as well as our Back to School Bash.

Jesus is Loving Barabbas – Video + Questions and Reflection

BARABBAS Questions and Reflection

Barabbas could be given freedom, but deserves the chains and crucifixion that he is destined for.

How are we like Barabbas?

What is one thing you would like to be set free from at this moment?

Jesus has healed, restored, and set free. Why is he facing punishment?

Reflection – Ask Jesus to help set you free from whatever it is that is weighing you down.

 

People vs the Father

Who does Barabbas think set him free?

Who actually sets Barabbas free?

How have you seen the Father work through circumstances in your life to set you free?

Reflection – Take a moment to thank the Father for those that encourage you and love on you in your walk toward freedom in Christ.

 

“Jesus knew that the Father would have to treat Jesus like Barabbas, so He could treat Barabbas like Jesus.”

What does this powerful statement mean to you personally?

Reflection – Imagine Jesus on the cross, giving His life for you. Thank Him for taking your place and giving you freedom.

 

Romans 5:8 says, “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”

Think about that one thing you would like to be set free from again.  What shame does Jesus need to take?  What sin do you need to hand to Him? What are you holding on to that on Jesus needs to set you free from, by His power alone?

Reflection – Take a moment and pray to the Father and say Jesus is enough for _____________.

Maybe there are a few things that you need to fill in that blank for.  It’s okay, Jesus is enough.

 

When you are done, take a moment to quiet your Spirit and listen to the voice of the Father. 

FollowME EASTER 2017 – NEW STUDENT PAVILION GRAND OPENING

 

Easter Sunday we are excited about the opportunity to worship with your family as we celebrate our Risen Savior.

With all the excitement surrounding Easter, it seems only fitting that we reveal the new Student Pavilion to our OSM families Easter Weekend.

The Oakwood Student Ministry would like to invite you and your family to join us in the new Student Pavilion for one of our Easter Celebration Services.

We will have LIVE Worship and then will watch Pastor Ray via simulcast.

  • We will have donuts, coffee, juice, milk, and celebrate together as we lift up the name of Jesus together.
  • If you are a parent of a middle school student we would like to invite your family to join us in the Student Pavilion at 9:15am.
  • If you are a parent of a high school student we would like to invite your family to join us in the Student Pavilion at 10:45am.

We hope and pray that you will join us on this special day as we celebrate the Resurrection of our Lord!!

The Oakwood Student Ministry Team