Adolescence: A Season of Pressure

Doug FieldsAuthor of Intentional Parenting

On the outside, most young people seem happy-go-lucky, but inside each adolescent is a complex network of potentially explosive pressures. Adolescents with a strong parental and social support system are the least likely to experience the painful effects of the pressures they face. When parents become aware of the typical sources of pressure that kids face, they are better able to provide their kids encouragement and support. Here are five common pressures adolescents face:

1. The Pressure to be Perfect.
Teens repeatedly talk about their parents wanting them to be perfect, particularly in in the areas of behavior and school. No kid is perfect and when they fall short of their parents’ expectations, they feel more pressure.

2. The Pressure to Succeed.

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Oakwood Middle School 6th Grade Retreat October 6-7

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Camp Eagle is nestled in a beautiful and rugged environment that is perfect for the casual camper, outdoor adventurer, or extreme sport enthusiast. While beauty and adventure draw many to the camp, the experiences and relationships make the greatest impact. Activities are more than just fun, each one is geared to inspire and transform lives towards a deeper relationship with Christ.

Click here for 6th Grade Retreat Registration 2017

What to bring?

  • Bring all your own linens and bedding for a twin bed.
    • The facility will not have towels, washcloths, pillows or bedding.
  • You also need to bring your own toiletries such as toothbrush, shampoo and soap.
  • Don’t forget your Bibles, notepad and pen.
  • Tennis Shoes are suggested for our fun activities

Friday, October 6

4:30 Meet at Oakwood Student Pavilion

Registration and Pizza

5:30 Load Buses

8:30 Arrive at Camp Eagle

9PM Welcome Session

10PM Capture the Flag

11PM Leader Know God Story Time

12AM LIGHTS OUT!

Saturday, October 7

8AM Breakfast

8:30 DEVO + SESSION 1

10AM Think Twice SG Breakouts

10:20 Break

10:30 Collapsed Mine and Millhouse

11:30 Think Twice SG Breakouts

12PM Lunch

1PM Archery Tag, Free Time

3PM Coffee Shop Open

4:30 SESSION 2

5:30 Think Twice SG Breakouts/ Pack and Clean up

6PM Dinner – Bags Ready to Load

6:30PM SESSION 3 and Load Buses

10PM  PICK-UP AT OAKWOOD

River Baptism and Middle School

Does your Middle Schooler want to get baptized in the River September 24???

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One of my favorite times of the year is our Baptism Sunday at Lazy L&L IN THE RIVER!  It is always a joy to celebrate the next step of obedience for believer’s baptism with your Middle Schooler!

River Baptism will be at the Oakwood Church Picnic on Sunday, September 24th immediately following lunch.

Sign up is at the picnic.  Bring a towel and something appropriate to wear in the river.  They’ll make an announcement when it’s time to head down to the river.

Here is a basics of baptism parent discussion guide for you!

How to get baptized at Lazy L&L

  1. Decide to get baptized
  2. Tell the volunteers at the picnic
  3. Meet the Pastors down by the river after lunch
  4. If you would like the Middle School Pastor to baptize you… Pick Pastor Brandon

Download the MS Baptism Parent Guide Here

Middle School Basics of Baptism – Parent Discussion Guide

  • What is Baptism? BAPTISM IS:  An Outward sign of an inward change 

According to Acts 2:38-41, when do people get baptized?

Peter & the beginning – Acts 2:38-41  38Peter replied, “Repent and be baptized, every one of you, in the name of Jesus Christ for the forgiveness of your sins. And you will receive the gift of the Holy Spirit. 39The promise is for you and your children and for all who are far off—for all whom the Lord our God will call.”

40With many other words he warned them; and he pleaded with them, “Save yourselves from this corrupt generation.” 41Those who accepted his message were baptized, and about three thousand were added to their number that day.

  • What does repent mean?   Repentance is: A Change of Mind that results in a change of heart.

Baptism happens after Repentance – “Repent and be baptized”

Philip & the Eunuch – Acts 8:34-39  34The eunuch asked Philip, “Tell me, please, who is the prophet talking about, himself or someone else?” 35Then Philip began with that very passage of Scripture and told him the good news about Jesus.

36As they traveled along the road, they came to some water and the eunuch said, “Look, here is water. Why shouldn’t I be baptized?”[f] 38And he gave orders to stop the chariot. Then both Philip and the eunuch went down into the water and Philip baptized him. 39When they came up out of the water, the Spirit of the Lord suddenly took Philip away, and the eunuch did not see him again, but went on his way rejoicing.

  • What is the “good news?” The “Good News about Jesus” is the truth that Jesus is the Son of the Living God.  He died to pay the penalty of the sins of the world, and ALL who call on the Name of the Lord shall be saved through Jesus Christ.
  • When did the Eunuch ask to be baptized? After responding to the Good News About Jesus.

What would JESUS do??? – The Baptism of Jesus Matt 3:13-17   13Then Jesus came from Galilee to the Jordan to be baptized by John. 14But John tried to deter him, saying, “I need to be baptized by you, and do you come to me?”  15Jesus replied, “Let it be so now; it is proper for us to do this to fulfill all righteousness.” Then John consented.  16As soon as Jesus was baptized, he went up out of the water. At that moment heaven was opened, and he saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and lighting on him. 17And a voice from heaven said, “This is my Son, whom I love; with him I am well pleased.”

  • What about You?
  • Have you repented and turned from your sin?
  • Have you heard the Good News or Gospel of Jesus and responded by giving your life to Him?
  • Do you want to walk as Jesus did in obedience?
  • When you are baptized, you are displaying one more story of the powerful change of Jesus Christ in our lives!

Middle School Wednesday Nights – 5:30pm to 7:30pm

SEPTEMBER

Jesus Redeems Series – Rescue Emphasis

  • Your students will learn that any hope we have of being reconciled to Creator God comes through Jesus, our Rescuer and Redeemer.
  • Main Topics: Redemption, rescue, gospel, hope, mission, faith, mercy
  • Connected Roots: Rescue, Apologetics, Outreach

Regular Schedule in Student Pavilion

5:30pm – Papa John’s Pizza Served, Crowd Games & Random Door Prize Giveaways

6:00pm – Fusion Wednesdays Begin with Worship

6:30pm – Talk Time

7:00pm – Small Groups in the Admin Rooms above the offices.

7:30pm – Dismiss

 

Sept 6 – Rescue Mission  *First Regular Middle School Wed – Memory Verse: John 4:35

Sept 13 – Headliner – Nicodemas Memory Verse: John 3:16-17

Sept 20 – Middle School Madness Game Night – Crazy Games/ Fun Games/ Competition for memory verses

Sept 27 – Allen Moorman, Guest Speaker

Are YOUR FEET BEAUTIFUL?

When I was in High School, something happened. At some point in my many High School adventures I slashed my left foot, right between the big toe and the second toe.  At the time, it must not have been major, because I don’t really remember what I did and didn’t even apply any medication to it.  I just left it to heal on it’s own.  Needless to say, this place on my foot eventually developed into a cyst that looked like I was creating my own little skin foothill to say the least.  Days turned to months, months turned into years, and I learned to live with this little bump on my left foot, but NEVER liked to show it off.  The great thing about socks and shoes in our society is that I didn’t have to really worry about anything until summer time rolled around.  Oh yea… Summer!  You know the time where you go barefoot and wear your flip flops or chacos or sandals and SHOW OFF YOUR FEET.  You get the picture.  I didn’t think my feet were up to par and really never thought my feet could ever be BEAUTIFUL.  (Hey, I’m a guy, so don’t just tell me to go get a pedicure and be done, girls.  I am sure that if I did consider something like a pedicure, that the lady person would have taken one look at my feet and bursted out in some sort of horrible scream, like the wicked witch of the East did in the Wizard of Oz.)

In a world of feet and stinkiness, I realize that maybe there are some of you out there with me.  You don’t like your feet.  They stink.  They are ugly in some way, and most of all, they CANNOT be BEAUTIFUL.  Lets face it, if there were some chart out there on the interwebs, the value for feet in this world would probably be really low compared to the value for, let’s just say, your eyes.

In conclusion, I realized that my feet were not beautiful and many others did not really have a high value for feet as well.

This is a problem.  When Paul starts talking in Romans about feet.  He uses the word beautiful in the same sentence as feet.  So when he talks all about feet, I naturally reject whatever he is about to say.  It’s like I just skim over Romans 10:15 and get to the next part.

HOWEVER,  all my life, I have been missing something that Paul has been saying about the whole foot thing.

Here is what he says…

And how are they to preach unless they are sent? As it is written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the good news!”
Romans 10:15 ESV


I had to get over the foot stuff and really look deeper into what Paul was saying.  He was pointing out something that makes total sense, to put BEAUTIFUL and FEET in the same sentence.

You see, wayyyyyy back in the day, When armies went to battle, those who remained at home waited anxiously to hear of the outcome, because often their destiny was tied to the success or failure of the armies. But they didn’t have telecommunication systems that could rush news instantly from the battlefront back to the local community. So messages were carried by runners.

Here is the main point – It’s not about FEET it’s about GOOD NEWS

IN FACT, in the ancient world it was customary, in some places, that if the messenger brought bad news, he was punished with death. If it was bad news, then, he would be burdened by the news that he was carrying, and fearful of what treatment he might expect. As each city posted lookouts to watch the approaching runners, it became almost a science whereby the lookout could determine whether the messenger was bringing good news or bad news, just by his feet.

To go deeper into history and the intentionality of Paul, there was the legend of Pheidippides.  (Yell out that name and see what reaction you get!!!) This was a soldier that ran from the battlefield at the site of the town of Marathon, Greece, to Athens in 490 B.C.  He ran so fast and so hard that as he delivered the momentous message “Niki!” (“victory”), he collapsed on the spot and died.  You might have guessed, that this why we use the word “Marathon” for that long run thing people do.  In fact, Pheidippides was honored by a 24.85 mile run from Marathon Bridge to Olympic Stadium in Athens during the first modern Olympic games held in 1896 in Greece.

Like Pheidippides, if the messenger was bringing good news of victory, his feet would be flying and he would be kicking up a lot of dust. There would be an exuberance and an enthusiasm in his running form, as he approached the walls of the city. Hence the phrase, ‘How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news!

You See, It’s not about FEET it’s about GOOD NEWS

So when you are grossed out by stinky feet or huge cysts growing on them, remember that Beautiful Feet are ones of Victory. Oh, and by the way, I eventually got a wife, and told her about the cyst, and she made me better by taking me to the skin Dr. and getting it removed on the operation table in the office, as my two young kids ate their Cheerios and watched their Daddy wrench in pain.  I love my wife!

How about you right now? Do you  have Victorious or Defeated feet when it comes to your walk with Jesus?

 

Wherever your feet go, do they gladly bring the Good News of Jesus Christ?

OR do they bring other news and drag behind you?

 

How can your pursuit of Christ be like Pheidippides?

 

Do you want to go run a Marathon now?  (Me Neither)

All Access Tonight

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6pm Pizza Served in the Pavilion

6:40 Jackson Seale Band Kicks off the night

7:15 Speaker

7:50 Response Time (Parents please be mindful of students responding to the Gospel)

8pm Dismiss

What is All Access? All Access is a large group event geared for students to invest and invite a friend. The Oakwood Student Ministry, grades 6-12, meet in Student Pavilion for a night of high energy worship and a relevant message, challenging students to follow Christ. 5:30pm begins with food and hang time, then high energy music, a relevant speaker and response time..  Our Believe Weekend Kick-Off night is an All Access Night as well as our Back to School Bash.

Regular Middle School Wednesdays Beginning September 6

What happens on Fusion Wednesdays? We meet in the Student Pavilion – 5:30pm is Papa John’s Pizza, hangout and crowd mixer games.  6:00pm Bible Study Begins.   We begin with student-led worship, move to talk time, and then break out into small groups for real life discussion. 7:30pm is dismissal time.

New 6th Grade Parents

Hey New 6th grade parents!

As Middle School students all over town are posting Class Schedules on Instagram, I know that as a parent, you are trying to get motivated for the new school year.

I just want to let you know that the truth is… IT WILL BE CHAOTIC.  CHANGE always is CHAOTIC, no matter what phase of life we are in.  My hope is that by the POWER OF GOD we can join together on the journey of faith and at least have some CONTROLLED CHAOS.  Isn’t it interesting that in the midst of change and crazy new schedules and registration and whatever may come our way, that we find GOD wanting to do AMAZING things in our lives.  When we can’t possibly do it all on our own, we find that God is looking for us to depend on His strength and wisdom to direct us on the path that will be full of joy and peace as we trust in HIM.

Romans 5:13 Says it this way: May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

UPCOMING EVENTS !!!!

Promotion Sunday, August 27th         

ALL ACCESS Wednesday, August 30th from 6:00pm – 8:00pm @ The Student Pavilion

6th Grade Retreat – October 6-7 @ Camp Eagle

Remind 101 Oakwoodms updates – Tezt Oakwoodnb to 81010

Sign up for the Parent Email List

6th Grade Sign Up 2017-2018

Q What is Fusion? Fusion offers a loving and accepting environment geared for Middle School Students Grades 6-8.  We have events, weekly meetings, and exist to Intentionally Engage Middle School Students by leading them to the heart of the Father.

Q When and Where does Fusion Meet? Fusion Meets Sundays 9:15am in the Student Pavilion.  Wednesdays begin 5:30pm in the Student Pavilion.

Q What happens on Fusion Sundays @ the Student Pavilion? Beginning at  9:15am students have a Shipley doughnut or five, play some fusion tag, worship, talk time, and small group time.  10:30am is dismissal time from break out rooms in the SWC.

Q What happens on Fusion Wednesdays? Starting Wed Sept 6 – 5:30 Pizza and Hang Out  Begins in the Student Pavilion with a mixer and random giveaways.  6pm begins with worship, then talk time. We then break out into small groups.  7:30pm is dismissal time

Q What is All Access? All Access is a foyer event geared for students to invest and invite a friend. The Oakwood Student Ministry, grades 6-12, meet in the New Student Pavilion for a night of high energy worship and a relevant message, challenging students to follow Christ.  6:00pm begins with food and hang time,  then high energy music, a relevant speaker, and response time.  8pm is dismissal time.