Tip#1 For LIving Your Best LIfe through the Darkest Times |

Tip#1 For LIving Your Best LIfe through the Darkest Times |.

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In Honor of Andrew Heard

Tip #1

How do we live in a world where there is so much good to be done, and so few good people to change the evil?  I have thought about this a lot since becoming sick, but this week has become even worse with a little bit of hope.

You see, a little bit of hope means the responsibility to do something good.  The responsibility to do good is always on us, but it becomes heavier when we realize that the responsisbility is there,  Responsibilities feel the most accute when the body/soul first feels their burden.

Christiainity can feel overwhelming until you relize that Jesus has taken the load for us and that our job is to worship and love.  Here is how it works.  We find something that we love (ie wirting) and we pour ourselves into it as an act of worship.  That act of worship changes the world, but for the worshiper and the observer.

You want to know how to thrive in a world where hope is uncertain and pain is real?  First remember that hope, even if it is only in the life to come is real!  Second, while we can’t stop pain we can greatly mitigate it.  We can make this world more like the Kingdom of Heaven and less like hell.

If we find what we really love and pour into it, we will find we have a great gift to give the world.  We can leverage that gift into fixinig things for people who couln’d help themeseves.  Whether it’s is running water for an elderly woman in Cuero, or the oblideration of Malaria in an African country.  If we each do our part and leverage our gifts, the tides will turn, even if we only have 3 months to live.

So what is it that you really love?  My tip is that you figure that question out.  Maybe it is that you love people.  That is the gretaest gift you could give!  Whatever it is, don’t feel overwhelmed, just start doing it and let’s see how much of the KOG (KINGDOM OF GOD) we can usher in before I die!  This isn’t a challenge from me, but a challenge issued by Jesus to his first disciples.  Don’t be overwhelmed by size of the task, remember who you partner with and simply start with what you love.  There is great peace there.  That is where I find my peace; three months, three years, thirty years. let’s see how much good I can do before the shot clock expires and smile as I walk through the game with my God!

-Andrew

Three Benefits of Overcoming Fear

 

2Tim 1:7 For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self‑discipline.

I have been thinking about this verse and what it means to us in this time of change.  With change, there will always be unknown and unknown can lead to anxiety, self-doubt, and FEAR.  I want to challenge you as a follower of Christ  in the midst of all that change to look past the fear and enjoy what 2 Timothy says are three powerful things in Christ.

  • Pastor Ray has been talking about what leads us to a High Level on Sundays, and that is definitely a SPIRIT of POWER from Jesus Christ.  You have the power to overcome sin, move past failure, and influence your family for the Kingdom of God.
  • This leads to the BEST LOVE we could ever imagine.  LOVE from Christ is totally selfless, full of POWER in JESUS, and seems to connect us in ways we never would have expected.  Power to OVERCOME, LOVE to connect, and lastly
  • Self-Discipline to actually make GOOD happen.  We can become our own worst enemies as we try to set goals, check off tasks, or in my case, look at the sheet of paper a month later and throw it in the trash… AGAIN.  What Self-Discipline from Jesus does is give us the power and Supernatural Wisdom to accomplish the life God is dreaming for us to pursue.

BE ENCOURAGED by GOD’S WORD and move past the fear of the unknown in the midst of the change.

Go to God and ask Him to fill you with POWER, LOVE, and SELF-DISCIPLINE!

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Paying the Penalty

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Last night at 8:30 I was called to pick one of my friends up at the emergency room. He had walked north on Aurora, way north, entered a local drug store and swiped a half gallon of Jack Daniels and started drinking straight away until he passed out on the sidewalk.  A passer-bye called 911 and he got a ride in the ambulance that he won’t remember as they brought him back to this world in the emergency room.

When he came to and became a bit coherent the nurse gave him a phone to call for a ride; my number was lodged in his brain. He wasn’t sure if I would answer the call and even if I did, would I drive to the hospital and get him?

I kissed Kristine goodbye and drove north. On the way I picked up my buddy, Brent, who is the youth pastor at Oakwood Baptist in Texas and was visiting the city with a group of high-schoolers.  He and I walked in the emergency room where my friend waited to be released.

I knew what I was about to do and it was going to be hard. I would take him from the emergency room back to his home…the park, just off Aurora Ave and 97th. He has been living in the park most of the winter and before that wondering the city for about four years.

As we drove south last night he told me he had stolen the liquor. The $40 that it would have cost to purchase the bottle was not something my friend had on him or would any time soon. I felt God’s direction. So I turned into the parking lot of the drugstore and told my friend that we were going to walk into the store, and I was going to pay for his crime. This kind of surprised me but that is what God wanted me to do.

My friend got very scared, agitated, verbally abusive and almost violent. His sin was surfacing and he could see it, taste it, touch it. He threaten to jump from my moving truck, right in the middle of a busy Aurora Avenue. Great fear confronted him as he was confronted with his sin and the payment for that sin.

Then the reason for this decision came out. I explained to him that God knew that we, too, couldn’t pay for the sin in our lives, we don’t possess the ability or the desire to pay it back. But, God knew this and so he paid the price through Jesus; the ultimate sacrifice to pay the ultimate price.

Oh how I needed to be reminded of this. My friend lived in fear, but he could be living in the freedom that comes through Jesus.

The night didn’t get much better for him, I bought him a pack of cigs and dropped him off at the park. He thanked me, was apologetic, embarrassed, ashamed. I prayed he would not drink more tonight, but would find himself too tired and would sleep.  As we drove away, he was curled over dry heaving, sucking on a cigarette and I know wanting another drink, of which, if he indulged that soon he would be dead in the morning.

There are so many levels of struggle in this story…

What happens next?

What does his future look like? As long as he is on the streets, no job, no options, no home, he will return to the emergency room again and again.

His bad choices took him from an RN job to the streets in less than five years. Can it be reclaimed?

How do I continue to sleep in my warm house, soft pillow and bed and behind locked doors, knowing he, and many others, are living where he is?

What can we do? What has been done for him hasn’t worked. What’s next?

How does God continue to restore us even when we continue to run after the entertainment of our Self.

Can I continue to do this long term? Can my soul take this?

The truth is, the more I walk with people like my friend last night, the more I realize my own depravity and see the amazing amount of Grace my Savior has had on me, an undeserved Grace, paying a penalty that I could never pay. Jesus even paid for my return to my own vomit.

Thank you!

Loki vs. Jesus – Soul Fuel – Dare 2 Share Youth Ministry Resources

Loki vs. Jesus – Soul Fuel – Dare 2 Share Youth Ministry Resources.

Loki vs. Jesus

Loki vs. Jesus

Welcome to the Whendonverse my friends!  Joss Whedon the Buffy producer has created a film that will move even the non-geekiest folks to get their geek on… (And yes, I’m one of the geeks.  For example, I know the name of Thor’s Hammer…“Mjollnir”…Yikes!)

Loki vs. Jesus 1Six superheroes who you would think have zero reason to be working together are forced to unite in the face of a threat that’s too big for any one of them to handle.  So throw in sarcasm slinger Stark, silver tongued Thor, old school patriot Captain America, stone cold assassins Hawkeye and Black Widow, and top it off with some HULK SMASH! – and you’ve got yourself a movie that causes one to simply marvel in amazement.

And as an added treat, The Avengers also features one of the better bad boy villains we’ve seen on the screen in a while. Loki, the loco bro of Thor, definitely does not stay low key in this film.  His smoldering angst ridden expressions and goth rock star look (except for the reindeer helmet) make an impressive show of eeeeevil and villainy.

I’m quite certain you’ll enjoy The Avengers, but you can take even greater gratification in the fact that the spiritual world created in the Marvel film series is about as real as a ginormous green guy in purple pants.  It’s more of a “reel” reality based on Viking mythology, where Loki is a “god” of sorts.  The problem with all these “gods” is that they act just like sinful humans with superpowers.

At least Captain America proclaims this truth when he’s getting ready to jump out of a plane to pursue an escaped Loki.  When he’s warned that he’s about to go after a god, he replies, “There’s only one God, ma’am… And he doesn’t dress like that.”

Loki vs. Jesus 2And I would add that He doesn’t act like Loki either.  This Norse god is a power hungry and insecure being trying to force everyone to worship him.  He displays his might and power in an attempt to subdue the cowering masses in obedience, but that’s not how the one true God won us over:

Jesus had equal status with God but didn’t think so much of himself that he had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, he set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, he stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn’t claim special privileges. Instead, he lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion (Philippians 2:5-8, The Message).

Jesus could have come to earth and put on a demonstration of power that no human could ever imagine.  Instead He “humbled” Himself by completely limiting His power and voluntarily pouring His immortal Being into finite and mortal flesh so He could die and save our eternal lives.

And p.s. – Jesus vs. Loki?  Oh Puh-lease!  Over before it started – right?

But back to my point.  You might guess that at the end of the film, the world doesn’t end up becoming little Loki-ites, but it sure is a fun ride getting to that part!

And in the real world?  Well you don’t have to guess, because the Bible gives us a clear picture:

Therefore, God elevated him to the place of highest honor
and gave him the name above all other names,
 that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow,
in heaven and on earth and under the earth,
and every tongue confess that Jesus Christ is Lord,
to the glory of God the Father
(Philippians 2:9-11).

Quite simple, isn’t it?  Jesus Christ is the Lord of all – and that is an objective reality.  Every man, woman, and child who has lived, is living, and will live must proclaim that truth at some point.  Christians do so while on earth, and because of that, we will share in Jesus’ eternal rule and reign.

Loki vs. Jesus 3Everyone else has a choice to reject Jesus’ offer of salvation and claim over their lives – but that defiance can only last during this lifetime.  Hell itself will be filled with those separated from God – yet eternally acknowledging that He is Lord.

This is why we have to look at the world as if it is facing a global destruction – because it is!  There is a real version of Loki named Satan who is desperately attempting to take as many souls with him as possible. In light of this, don’t be low-key when it comes to sharing your faith in Jesus with your friends.

Let’s avenge the works of the devil and shield our friends from the coming devastation, and let’s make it an exciting ride all the way to the end!

Flashpoint: Ignite into Action

 

It is safe to assume that most, if not all, of your friends will be seeing this movie at some point.  Given that possibility, think of ways today that you could bridge a conversation about the gospel into one of the concepts of the movie.  Pray for God to open doors to use The Avengers as a catalyst for THE Cause of Christ!

Accelerant: Feed the Fire

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PRAYJesus, it is overwhelming to think about how much You gave up and the extent to which You humbled Yourself when You came and died for us.  Enable us to take that truth into the world so You can win over those who don’t know You as their Savior.

READ Isaiah 53:3. He was despised and rejected by men, a Man of sorrows, and familiar with suffering. Like one from whom men hide their faces He was despised, and we esteemed Him not.

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Guest post: What we can learn from the world’s oldest teenager | interlinc

Guest post: What we can learn from the world’s oldest teenager | interlinc.

Guest post: What we can learn from the world’s oldest teenager

By interlinc team member Phil Baker

We lost a music legend this week.  And he never played an instrument or sang a song.  Dick Clark will be remembered as an authority in the music industry.  Why?  Because he recognized the power of music.  It lifted him out of depression when he lost a brother in World War II.  And he saw it lift the American teenager from culturally insignificant to culturally influential.

He was known as “the world’s oldest teenager” not just because he seemed to age slower than the rest of us.  But also because he kept his intuitive finger on the drum beat of popular music.  Youth leaders also tend to be “just older teenagers”.  (You know I’m right.)  Like Dick Clark they too are kept young by the company they keep.  So it is only appropriate that we pause and observe the life of Dick Clark to see what truth a youth leader can glean from it.

You don’t have to dress and act like a teenager to gain their trust.
Dick Clark started “American Bandstand” in 1952 and saw three decades of music and teenagers twist, hustle and break-dance across his dance floor.  And in all that time, he remained professional in action and in dress.  While fashions and trends flooded the culture in which he plied his trade, he remained uninfluenced and unchanged, like a handrail for those trying to make their way.

Nothing is sadder than someone trying to be something they’re not.  And Dick Clark showed that you don’t have to dress and act like a teenager to gain their trust.  Teens, more than anyone, can sniff out the inauthentic.

Listen beyond the beat
On “American Bandstand” teenagers danced to and then rated the most popular songs of their day, often commenting mindlessly that “it’s got a good beat and you can dance to it.”  But there’s much more to a song than beat and dance-ability.  As a youth leader, you have to listen beyond the beat to filter out those messages that might endanger what you are trying to instill in your teens.

No opinions, just discussion
While an appearance on “American Bandstand” could make or break an artist, rarely did Dick Clark comment on the content or message of the music.  In interviews with his audience, he offered no opinions, just discussion, letting them criticize or praise a song or artist.

As a youth leader, you have a great “in” with the teens who darken the door of your youth room.  It’s possible you could “make or break” their spiritual future simply by discussing their favorite artist with them or exposing them to a Christian artist who they might not otherwise come across.  There’s no need to judge their musical tastes or force a song into their ears.  A simple question or lighthearted conversation about the merits of an artist (Christian or mainstream) can go a long way.

There’s a lot to be said for Dick Clark’s unique effect on the music industry.  Makes you really think about how someone can change the world in an unexpected way.

Like all legends, Dick Clark will live forever, his name etched on the stone memorial of music history.  And I hope a little of him will live on in youth leaders who recognize the potential impact music has on a person and a ministry.

The Hunger Games, God, and Teenagers

Guest post: The Hunger Games, God, and Teenagers

Editor’s note: We asked several of our regular Resource Book writers to share their thoughts on this weekend’s release of “The Hunger Games.” This post is by Joshua R. Ziefle at Northwest University in Kirkland, Washington


This weekend marks the long-awaited premiere of The Hunger Games, the film adaptation of Suzanne Collins’ bestselling young adult novel of the same name. The book, its sequels, and forthcoming movie adaptation(s) have followed in the footsteps of both Harry Potter and Twilight as literary juggernauts and likely box-office blockbusters.

Having painfully struggled through the Twilight series (books and movies), I can honestly say that The Hunger Games is a superior piece of young adult fiction and, based on the movie trailer, looks to be a much more engaging film. Gone are the days of watching Bella Swan stared longingly at a wall. In the place of the turgid Twilight films the drama—and yes, violence—of The Hunger Games has the potential to draw in both males and females by the droves.

The Hunger Games is set in a dystopian North American continent at some unknown point in the future. The world as we know it is gone, replaced by the land of Panem and consisting of 12 “districts” that labor mostly in poverty in order to serve the needs of the central “Capitol.” These sending districts rebelled at some point in the past, but were brutally repressed by their overlords. In an effort to remind them of their subjugated state and keep them in line, the Capitol (a decadent, media-obsessed city) decrees that each year two teenagers (male and female) be chosen at random from each of the districts and forced to fight to the death while the whole of Panem watches on television. The lone survivor is declared the winner and gets to retire in comfort. The rest of the districts mourn their losses and move on.

The hero of The Hunger Games is Katniss Everdeen, a teenage girl who volunteers for the games after her 12 year old sister is chosen in the lottery. Her emotional journey through the novel–and the Hunger Games themselves–make for compelling reading and offer some clear points of identification for our students.

Katniss and each of the teenagers selected as “Tributes” reveal the adolescent sense of insecurity in all its immediacy. For many teenagers high school really can feel like a battle to the death. Yet in the face of this struggle many adults—just like Katniss’s upbeat and empty handler Effie Trinket—simply pat them on the head and send them on their way. The adult population of The Hunger Games is also sadly suggestive of today’s reality, for nearly all of the book’s grownups are absent, inaccessible, or failed human beings. Katniss’s father is dead, and appears only in flashback. Her mother is a shell of a woman that has little impact on her life. Effie, her advisor from the Capitol, is profoundly superficial and oblivious to the world around her. Her coach, Haymitch Abernathy, is an alcoholic veteran of the Games who very often treats her poorly. In the wake of these retrograde examples of adulthood, Katniss the adolescent is often forced to make her own way and create a world divorced from the adults around her…much like many of our youth.

Concerning adults and adolescents, what does it mean that the solution to the adult problems of Panem involves forcing their children to fight? Just as adolescents today are often (sadly) pawns in the machinations of adults, so too Katniss is in many ways not her own. Her fight in the arena, as much as it is to survive, is also to “stick it to the man” who has been trying to co-opt her agency as a human being.

The Hunger Games is therefore a coming-of-age story that simultaneously inverts the whole idea. As a teenage girl whose father died in a coal mining accident and whose mother slipped into a debilitating depression not long after, Katniss was forced to grow up on her own years before the Games. This is similar to the plight many teens face today. By the time their societally-sanctioned rites of passage arrive, they have already grown up much more than we know.

Though Suzanne Collin’s books operate in a relative religious vacuum (God is never mentioned), the themes and ideas contained within are deeply theological and worthy of probing with our students. Take, for instance, the situation of the degenerate leaders of this failed society. Time and again, Collins describes the Capitol as an image-obsessed and vapid society whose desire for artifice, style, and image knows no bounds. There is a persistent sense in the midst of this decadent city that citizens are even beginning to deface even the image of God in their persons…perhaps a final sign of how truly lost they are.

More immediate is the present of death. The Games are violent. They are graphic. People die. They die not because they have to, but because they are forced to. From the Capitol’s point of view, they die in order to keep the population in bondage. They die, then, as a symptom and result of this society of sin. They die not to erase the results of this sin, but to cover it over for a time and patch things together. But just as Cain’s murder of Abel caused the very ground to cry out at the injustice of it all (Gen. 4), so too this adolescent blood points towards a reckoning. There are many opportunities here for enterprising youth workers to use the film as entree to deep conversations about God’s call on our lives in the midst of a world of war, peace, violence, and a society that cares very little for “the least of these” (Matt. 25).

There are plenty of additional opportunities for theological reflection and youth ministry application in The Hunger Games. Indeed, I strongly encourage youth ministers to take advantage of this “low hanging fruit” (as a friend calls it) that our culture has made available. Rather than reinventing the wheel, why not use the lingua franca already available to the teens under our care? One youth pastor I know has adapted their group’s 30 Hour Famine this year with a strong Hunger Games theme. I made the book assigned reading for my “Foundations of Youth Ministry” course this past Fall. Another ministry colleague has reminded me that the main theme of The Hunger Games—being forced to maintain yourself and your vales in the midst of heavy societal pressure to do otherwise—has deep ties to the ideas in the book of Daniel. This sounds like the beginning of a wonderful teaching series to me! Like the ancient prophet, Katniss Everdeen presents a helpful model of “third-way” resistance in the face of oppression: neither 1) violent resistance nor 2) capitulation but rather 3) a different and more measured stand that silently and slowly subverted the whole system.

Whether you are a Hunger Games fan or not (and I think you should be), you owe it to your students to understand the culture in which they are located. By all indications, it is the Hunger Games’ world now; we’re just living in it. More immediate than Harry Potter and more broadly engaging the Twilight, The Hunger Games has the potential to be a cultural touchstone for students who feel disenfranchised, powerless, fragmented, abandoned, and alone. In the midst of that world, we who are called to share good news have been given yet another way to speak a message of life and love to those students under our care.

Are You 21st Century Servant Leadership Literate? | Developing 21st Century Glocal Servant Leadership

Are You 21st Century Servant Leadership Literate? | Developing 21st Century Glocal Servant Leadership.

Are You 21st Century Servant Leadership Literate?

Bruce Nixon, in a 2004 article entitled “Creating a Cultural Revolution in Your Workplace to Meet the Challenges of the 21st Century” defined the situation we are at the beginning of the 21st century by saying:

We are in the midst of a transformation than can only compare with the Agricultural and Industrial Revolutions. We call it globalization. It affects every aspect of our lives – social, political, cultural, spiritual, and ecological. It is transforming institutions of every kind including community, family, and our individual lifestyles. It is the century we are going to need “servant leaders”, more than ever before (p.1).

Ronald Claiborne in a 2010 article “Benefits of practicing servant leadership” quotes Karakas (2007) as saying”

“Leadership in the 21st century must deal with problems of global uncertainty, chaos, innovation, change, dynamism, flux, speed, interconnectedness, and complexity therefore, the benefits of practicing servant leadership becomes a critical success factor in any business.”

Karakas goes on to state in Claiborne’s article that “All leaders in the 21st century need to be social artists, spiritual visionaries, and cultural innovators” (p.1).

It is insightful that Jeff Iorg, in his book “The Character of Leadership, states in describing servant leadership, “Servant leadership is, in its essence, an attitude. Servant leadership is defined more by who you are than by what you do” (p.117), and yet our talk must match walk in order to be a true servant leader. How is this essence and attitude lived out for the world to see.

Who hasn’t been watching the nation of Egypt in the world news over the past weeks/months as we have seen the resignation of President Mubarak, and the call for a more democratic nation? In an article by Saba Mahmood, in the Jadaliyya, entitled “The Architects of the Egyptian Uprising and the Challenges Ahead”, one of the leading architects of change is listed as Hossam Hamalawy, a prominent Egyptian blogger and consummate ethnographer of the Egyptian street” (p.2). The other leader to gain worldwide attention during Egypt’s pro-democracy uprising, as reported in IslamiCity, The woman behind Egypt’s revolution” is twenty-six year old Asmaa Mahfouz, who graduated in 2008 from the business school of the American University of Cairo (p.1).

Servant leadership takes many forms, some outside corporate boardroom and office. Whether it is being a servant leader attempting to usher in change in a nation, or whether it is being a servant leader in our particular vocation, as a fellow human being, becoming a servant leader is a process that happens over a lifetime. It involves for many of us becoming a work in process as we continue to read, study, and slowly implement change into our lives, developing that servant leadership perspective.

Alvin Toffler, in his book The Third Wave, makes this thought provoking statement:

The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn” (Starke, Christ-Based Leadership, 2005, p.11)

Dr. Bruce Winston, Dean of the School of Global Leadership and Entrepreneurship  program at Regent University, has noted in his book (Be A Leader for God’s Sake , 2002), the following observations relative to servant leadership:

Employees and followers want leaders who are honest, open, and who keep the   organization moving in a positive direction during both calm and stormy seas.       Employees and followers want leaders who are “others-centered.” Employees and followers want leaders who can bring out the best qualities in them. Beyond   this, leaders must also love all the organization’s stakeholders from customers, vendors, regulators, shareholders, members, as well as contributors (p.9).

In his book, Dr. Winston refers to Max DePree’s book Leadership Jazz, and shares an excerpt from his book, providing a wonderful and colorful description of the employer/employee exchanges that happen in servant leadership:

A Jazz band is an expression of servant leadership. The leader of a jazz band has the beautiful opportunity to draw the best out of the other musicians. We have much to learn from jazz-band leaders. For jazz, like leadership, combines the unpredictability of the future with the gifts of individuals (p.10).

Kouzes and Posner (The Truth About Leadership, 2010), in their chapter Leadership is an Affair of the Heart, state, “Exemplary leaders interact in ways that make others feel more confident and capable, elevating people to a higher plane,” which is what servant leadership is all about. They quote Gary Strack, former CEO of a regional health care system in Florida, who states that the purpose of leadership is to create a legacy and not a legend, going on to say:

I constantly remind myself that my name is not on the organization. I think all          leaders, including myself, need to be reminded of that and that we are just in our       positions as stewards of our people and organizations which have been entrusted to us (p.139).

So how can we evaluate our leadership style and determine if we are servant leaders putting others needs ahead of ours, being good stewards of our followers and our resources? Calvin Miller (The Empowered Leader: 10 Keys to Servant Leadership, 1995) provides Five Evidences of Power Abuse:

  • Giving up those disciplines, we still demand of underlings.
  • Believing that others owe us whatever use we can make of them.
  • Trying to fix things up rather than make things right.
  • Closing our minds to every suggestion that we ourselves could be out of line.
  • Believing that people in our way are expendable.

In The Steward Leader: Transforming People, Organizations and Communities, R. Scott Rodin (2010) quotes leadership expert Max DePree’s saying, “The first responsibility of the leader is to define reality. The last is to say thank you. In between the leader is a servant.” In his book, he relates the story told by Robert Greenleaf about a king who asked Confucius what to do about the large number of thieves in his country. Confucius replied, “If you, sir, were not covetous, although you should reward them to do it, they would not steal.” Greenleaf goes on to say:

This advice places an enormous burden on those who are favored by the rules, and it established how old in the notion that the servant views any problem in the world as in here, inside himself, and not out there. And, if a flaw in the world is to be remedied, to the servant the process of change starts in here, in the servant, and not out there (pp. 17-18).

Perhaps we would be wise to remember this quote from Robert Greenleaf found in The International Journal of Servant-Leadership:

The true test of a servant leader is this: Do those around the servant-leader become wiser, freer, more autonomous, healthier, and better able themselves to become servants? Will the least privileged of society be benefited or at least not further deprived? (2007, opening page in book).

Dr. Corné Bekker, associate professor for the School of Global Leadership & Entrepreneurship, Regent University, in his paper Prophet and Servant: Locating Robert K. Greenleaf’s Counter-Spirituality of Servant Leadership, (2010), states that for Greenleaf, servant leaders are characterized by:

  • Being visionaries
  • Having high ethical standards
  • Doing things with excellence
  • Being persuasive
  • Rational thinking
  • Being prophetic [futuristic] imaginative
  • Ordinariness
  • Comfortable with paradox
  • Being a good listener
  • Accomplishing transformative actions

Dr. Bekker, noting that Greenleaf himself was a religious man, and described servant leaders leading as prophets by (a) healing, (b) persuading, (c) creating systems of thinking, (d) opening alternative avenues for work, (e) serving, (f) inspiring, (g) facilitating individual and societal transformation, (h) empowering followers, (i) uniting leaders and followers, (j) building bridges between organizations and communities, and (k) by ushering in a new era of servant leadership. The intended outcome of these prophetic servant leaders is to re-imagine and reshape the social domain of leaders and organizations (p.10).

I would refer you to pages 11-12; table two in Dr. Bekker’s paper, for additional descriptions of the nature and functions of a servant leader as prophet by Greenleaf.

Dr. Bekker’s paper and concluding thoughts are extremely appropriate here at the close of this paper. Referring to Greenleaf, he states that Greenleaf’s servant leader is a person who “Seeks to bridge the two opposing worlds of self-interested commerce and the altruistic philosophies of public service and social transformation. Greenleaf proposed that the leader is a prophet that facilitates the formation of a new vision that unites and transforms (both individually and societal). He imagined a world marked by service, equality, unity, and new possibilities of radical altruism (p.12).

Blackaby and Blackaby (2006), remind us servant leaders:

  • Delegate
  • Give people freedom to fail
  • Recognize the success of others
  • Give encouragement and support (Spiritual Leadership, pp.110-111).

Lee Strobel, a former award-winning journalist at the Chicago Tribune, noted in a section in his book What Would Jesus Say: to Mother Teresa, an observation by Warren Wiersbe from his book On Being a Servant of God, the distinction between servants who are manufacturers, and those who are distributors, noting:

Some people manufacture there compassion for the needy out of whatever is         motivating them. For instance, maybe they’re feeling guilty over their own influence. Perhaps they pity the poor or altruistically sense they should give something back to the world. Maybe they have a neurotic drive to put the needs of others before their own in order to make themselves feel worthwhile. Whatever the source, they have to create their compassion and, sooner or later, it’s probably going to run out.

However, Mother Teresa isn’t primarily a manufacturer but a distributor, as she      empties herself serving others (1994, pp.64-65).

Jeff Iorg, in his book The Characteristic of Leadership: Nine Qualities that Define Great Leaders, says, “Leaders should sacrifice themselves, care for people, and be personally involved with their followers” (p.116). He addresses the issues of motives, a good way to self examine ourselves to see if we indeed are leading from a servant leaders heart by providing some choices we can make to make sure we are on track:

  • Choose to do a dirty job – like cleaning toilets, changing diapers, and do it without any fanfare or expectation of appreciation.
  • Choose to serve anonymously – doing this without recognition or reward helps to purify motives.
  • Choose to serve secretly – do something for someone else, but do not reveal your personal involvement, let it remain anonymous.
  • Choose to serve an enemy – help them personally and quietly in their time of need.
  • Choose to make someone else successful – remember “it is not all about you” and assisting someone else with their accomplishments, helping them succeed is a great way to purify your motives (pp.131-136).

Whether you believe Jesus at best was just a good man who lived and died on planet earth some 2000 years ago, read the story found in the Bible’s Gospel of John 13.1-17. It is the story of Jesus washing the feet of his disciples. This is what being a servant leader is about. Would any of us as an organizational leader be humble enough to wash someone’s feet if that is what it would take to make him or her committed followers? Who among us is the next Mother Teresa?

References

Bekker, C. J. (2010). Prophet and Servant: Locating Robert K. Greenleaf’s Counter-        Spirituality of Servant Leadership. Retrieved February 19, 2011 from             http:www.regent.edu/acad/global/publications/jvl/Vol1/Bekker_Corne_Final.pdf

Blackaby, H. T., & Blackaby, R. (2006). Spiritual Leadership. Nashville, TN: B & H.

Claiborne, R. (2010). Benefits of practicing servant leadership. Helium, Inc. Retrieved      February 11, 2011, from http://www.helium.com/items/1879687-benefits-of-            practicing-servant-

Iorg, J. (2007). The Character of Leadership: Nine Qualities that Define Great Leaders. Nashville, TN: B & H.

Kouzes, J. M., & Posner, B. Z. (2010). The Truth About Leadership. San Francisco, CA:   JOSSEY-BASS.

Mahmood, S. (2011). The Architects of the Egyptian Uprising and the Challenges             Ahead. Jadaliyya. Retrieved February 21, 2011, from     http://www.jadaliyya.com/pages/index/645/the-architects-of-the-egypti

Miller, C. (1995). The Empowered Leader: 10 Keys to Servant Leadership. Nashville,       TN: B & H.

Rodin, R. S. (2010). The Steward Leader: Transforming People, Organizations and

Communities. Downers Grove, IL: IVP Academic.

Spears, L. (ed.). (2007). The International Journal of Servant-Leadership. Vol. 3.    Gonzaga University.

Stark, D. (2005). Christ-Based Leadership. Minneapolis, MN: Bethany House.

Strobel, L. (1994). What Would Jesus Say. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.

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JOY!

God is amazing!  I cannot deny His power and timing in every situation.  As a Father of two little ones, I know that I have a huge responsibility to present Christ to the family and clearly share what it means to follow Jesus.  I also must say that Kids Kare on Tuesdays and Thursdays, Wednesday nights, and Sundays (usually all day for us Pastor types and the kids) does an amazing job clearly explaining Jesus on a child level as well.  In saying that, Laura and I have been praying for Kaitlyn, who is now five and Noah, who is now three to hear the gospel clearly and respond correctly.  My prayers for a while over the kids and our household were based out of the truth in the book of Joshua.

Joshua 24:14-15

14 “Now fear the Lord and serve him with all faithfulness. Throw away the gods your forefathers worshiped beyond the River and in Egypt, and serve the Lord.15 But if serving the Lord seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your forefathers served beyond the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the Lord.

Our family is choosing to serve THE LORD and as for me and my house we will SERVE THE LORD!  With this in mind, we have been in discussion with Kaitlyn about what Jesus did and why He died for us.  She even had times where she brought up topics about the cross and sin to both of us separately.  The soil had been cultivated by many.  From intentionality in the family to the love at Oakwood, Kaitlyn was ready for the asking.  After many discussions, prayers, tears, and thoughts, Laura decided to tell Kaitlyn to think about asking Jesus in to her heart during the day at school.  Laura’s desire was for Kaitlyn to know and sense the still small voice of God drawing her.

Thursday, March 8, marks the evening Kaitlyn talked to both of us about wanting to ask Jesus in her heart.  We let her voice a prayer in her own words and also guided her to pray.  The night filled me with JOY!  With so much of life and the hectic movement of it, my life paused and we celebrated the JOY of little Kaitlyn giving her heart to Jesus!

 

Love At Last Sight Challenge: BE ALL THERE

The Love as Last Sight Challenge has begun at Oakwood Baptist Church.  For 30 days we are going to focus on adding value to our relationships using the practical insights Kerry and Chris Shook have given in the Love At Last Sight Book.  I like the fact that we are taking a look at this challenge as an ART and not a SCIENCE.  Relationships are messy and one relationship is not exactly like another because we are all uniquely created by God.

Check out this link for more details 

Three Stages of Love – We have discovered in the book that there are three stages of love when it comes to the deep relationships around us.

  1. First Glance or infatuation stage – The Monkees added a great musical touch to this first stage of love.  Here are the lyrics:                                                                                                                                                                               I thought love was only true in fairy tales
    Meant for someone else but not for me.
    Love was out to get me
    That’s the way it seemed.
    Disappointment haunted all my dreams.Then I saw her face, now I’m a believer
    Not a trace of doubt in my mind.
    I’m in love, I’m a believer!
    I couldn’t leave her if I tried.I thought love was more or less a given thing,
    Seems the more I gave the less I got.
    What’s the use in tryin’?
    All you get is pain.
    When I needed sunshine I got rain.

    Then I saw her face, now I’m a believer
    Not a trace of doubt in my mind.
    I’m in love, I’m a believer!
    I couldn’t leave her if I tried

  2. Second Look stage – you take a second look and usually it’s a harder second look and that’s the time where you ask, ”What did I ever see in you in the first place?”  All you can see is the glaring differences you have.  You say, they’re not like me at all.  We’re just opposites.  You see all of their annoying habits.  I think Pop Stars and the Media-type relationships make it right up to this stage and BAIL!

3. Last Sight stage –  Then there is the tried and true Love Stage.   The goal is to think this,  “The last time we see each other we will be more in love than ever before.”

I believe we are all looking for Last Sight Stage people to have in our lives.  We crave people that really “get” us and know who we are.  Someone that knows my heart won’t misunderstand me as much, right?

Think about it:   What deep relationships and friendships do you have right now?  Are you deeply hurt by someone close to you?  Has your marriage lost that loving feeling?  Maybe we all need a lesson on what it takes to reach the Last Sight Stage, where we are actually growing in our close relationships like never before.
If we are going to learn to love at last sight, a great place to focus is on Ephesians 5:1-2.

“Imitate God, therefore, in everything you do, because you are His dear children.  Live a life filled with love, following the example of Christ. He loved us and offered Himself as a sacrifice for us, a pleasing aroma to God.”  Ephesians 5:1-2 (NLT)

Kerry Shook says, “The highest goal we can have this side of heaven is to love like Jesus Christ.
That’s a life-long journey of growing and developing rich, meaningful relationships.  Jesus shows us what it will take to live a life of love.  That’s why we’re told to follow the example of Christ if we are to live a life of love, a love that lasts. He paints a portrait of what God would have our relationships look like.  Relationships are an art and the master artist who offers us the clearest picture of love is Jesus Christ.  When you look at His life, His character and the relationships He shared with His Father and others, you see a perfect picture of love.”

This love at last sight thing is all about the art of relationships.  The first art is The Art of Being All There, Wherever You Are – the Bible tells us that Jesus is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.  You’ll never have to worry about Him not being all there for you when you call out to Him.  Following His death and resurrection, He gave this assurance to His disciples and to us in Matt. 28:20, “… And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.”  He wanted them and us to be confident, “be sure of this” so that we would never doubt His presence.  Even though we may not be able to see Him, He wanted us to know that He was with us.  Faith simply believes that and says thanks!  You’ll never have to pray what I’ve heard prayed so often in churches growing up, “Father, be with us today…”  Why do we ask God that?  Wasn’t it God who said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.”  Heb. 13:5 (NIV)

So the first week challenge is to  BE ALL THERE in your relationships each week of this Love At Last Sight Series.  Something that has been helpful to me is the following scripture on love.

1 Corinthians 13:4-8a
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.5 It is not rude, it is not self‑seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails.

This is ultimately Last Sight Love.  When we focus on the love of Christ, we put away our selfish pride and begin to focus on others.

How are you doing with the art of BEING ALL THERE?

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your brain on technology « Don’t Stop Believing.

 

your brain on technology

Over the last week I read some provocative books on digital technology, including Nicholas Carr, The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains; William Powers, Hamlet’s Blackberry; Clay Shirky, Here Comes Everybody; Michael Lewis, Next; and Tim Challies, The Next Story. Challies does an excellent job summarizing the insights of the others, and he adds his own Christian perspective. It is easily the best place to begin.

Here are five things I’ve learned:

1. Texting has a proud and distinguished history. It began in Finland, when frightened boys figured out how to use the keypads on their Nokia phones to ask girls out. They passed their skill on to their parents, who decided they liked the control and concealment that came with texting.

This week I heard of a young woman who was talking with a friend on her phone. The conversation became too emotional, so they decided to hang up and text each other. When asked why she would do such a thing, the woman replied that she didn’t want the other person to hear her cry. Maybe our technology is not connecting us as much as we think?

2. The Internet is giving us Attention Deficit Disorder. The neurons in our brains are constantly reconnecting and creating new pathways, and so our brains adapt to whatever thinking style we are currently using. The Internet encourages rapid, shallow thoughts that skim along the surface of pictures and text (mostly pictures). The more we surf the web the more difficult it is for our brains to slow down and think deeply in a single direction.

Don’t believe it? How long has it been since you’ve read an entire book? Why don’t you sit down and read one now? It’s harder than it used to be, isn’t it? We are becoming skimmers rather than readers.

3. Google encourages distraction rather than reflection. This company makes money every time we click on one of their ads, so they have a vested interested in keeping our mouses moving. The last thing they want is for you to bog down and immerse yourself in a single story.

Stand up to their manipulation by reading the rest of this blog post, slowly and with deep thought (he said, manipulatively).

4. The Internet is destroying our memories. The first step to memory formation is attentiveness. We focus on a certain event, which then enables that experience to transition from our short-term to long-term memory. So what happens to people who lose their ability to focus? They lose the ability to develop long-term memories. There is a third thing too, but I can’t remember what it is. Oops.

5. The Internet never forgets. Every click you’ve ever made is stored somewhere, so either be careful what sites you visit or make sure you never become famous—because your dirty laundry could be dredged for all to see. Of course, we’re all going to stand before God someday, so we already have the best reason to be careful, whether or not we’re planning on becoming famous.

6. I learned lots of other things, but if these books are right, then few of you have read this far anyway, and if you have, you’re itching for a break. So I’ll save the rest for another short post.